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Maybe next time…

I have been working on a new post for all of you but it is not going well. My brain is not functioning properly and I refuse to post crap for the sake of posting.

Once I find my inspiration, I promise a new post will be published. In the meantime, here is my cat Max:

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I promise I will get something new up soon! Please follow my blog or follow me on Twitter @how2cupid so you will know when a new post is up! Thank you and happy soul searching! xoxo

Plenty of…. MATCHES?!?!

I have been an a frequent okcupid user for the past few years. I can’t even really remember why I decided to start using okcupid, but it has been a front runner for me for years. I had a lot of fun on the Tinder app and exploring the capabilities it had to offer. However I found a few bugs in the app that really started to get on my nerves, so I decided to explore other apps.

I used match.com for a short while about five years ago. I couldn’t really remember why I stopped using it, so I decided to give it another chance. After spending about 30 minutes putting together my match.com profile, it was approved, and the messages started flowing. However when I went to view these messages, I couldn’t because I was not a paying subscriber. I must have had a free trial before, and I forgot that was why it was free! I would have actually thrown down some money for this site, I liked a lot of what I had viewed so far, and I was anxious to talk to a few people. However their subscription pricing plans stopped me in my tracks…

  • 6 months: $21.99/month
  • 3 months: $24.99/month
  • 1 month: $42.99/month

I know a lot of people say that when you pay-to-play you get a higher quality of potential matches. I don’t think I necessarily believe that to be true. Not to ‘toot my own horn’ but I think that I could be a great match for the right guy, but I am not willing to spend as much as $42.99/month to find him.

I decided to refocus my efforts, and look for a less expensive, preferably free alternative. When I first started online dating it was about five years ago. I have disappeared from the world from time to time when I am either in a relationship or fed up, but it all started about five years ago. The first dating site to pop my online dating ‘cherry’ was Plenty of Fish. I am sure that many of you have either heard of it, or have used it before. Plenty of Fish is very similar to okcupid, and it helps that it is free to use.

I started up a new profile on my phone and the initial setup process only took me about five minutes. I didn’t have time to really add a whole lot of information, but I posted a picture and a message letting people know I would add more later. Since I opened my account at 4:26pm eastern standard time, I have received over 100 messages. I haven’t even had the chance to update my profile. The app can’t handle uploading a photo and receiving a message at the same time, so there were issues there as well. Just to give you an idea, after reading through all the messages, within ten minutes I had this…

Holy Moly

Holy Moly

The messages keep coming in… I have seventeen new messages since I took that screenshot a half hour ago. Then of course there is my lonely match.com message from some poor guy who probably spilled his heart out, but because I am a cheapskate I will never know what he said…

However, I am well aware of what the men of Plenty of Fish have to say. They clearly haven’t read my blog…in their defense I haven’t posted a link yet. I was going to entertain you with a collection of the worst and best messages that I have received so far, however this app has a very hard time handling high traffic and it is proving to be quite the challenge. Plus my cat is in my writing space…

My Assistant

My Assistant

Most of the messages so far are a combination of the ‘Hey, how are you?’, ‘What’s up sexy?’, ‘Have you ever considered a sugar daddy type relationship?’, ‘Future wife.’, ‘Please message me’, and the list goes on…some messages were too vulgar to post in my blog. I try to keep this as PG-13 as I can. I am sure as the excitement of another fish in the pond wears off the messages will slow down. I have seen a lot of new faces on this app, I have also seen a lot of familiar faces as well.

I highly recommend to any of you trying online dating to make profiles on numerous sites. This expands your reach and gives you more options. You never know who you may find out there. And for those of you that think it is so easy being a pretty girl on these sites, you couldn’t be more wrong. More than half the messages I get are just men looking for ass, and the other half just liked the way I looked. There is a very small percentage of men who message me, that actually have taken the time to learn about me, and want more than just a one night stand. Furthermore, not every guy that I message will message me back, and sometimes they message me back to tell me bad news.

For example, today I messaged a guy on okcupid that I thought was handsome and very interesting. The first few initial messages were going very well and I was actually kind of excited. That was until he dropped a bomb on me, and informed me that he recently has been seeing someone and although he would be glad to be my friend, that was all at this time. Will I be this guys friend? I don’t know, maybe. I appreciate the honestly, but I know myself all too well, and it is really hard for me to be friends with men I find attractive.

We all get shot down, it happens. But by expanding your reach, exploring new opportunities you CAN find someone, or at the very least find a new friend. I will continue to use the POF app, along with okcupid and Tinder. If you see me out there, don’t be afraid to say hello!

What is your favorite online dating site/app? Are you willing to pay the prices to be on match.com and other pay-to-play sites? Have you also made good friends through failed dating attempts? I love your stories and I look forward to reading them! Thank you for reading and happy soul searching! xoxo

Inner Monologue & What a Girl REALLY THINKS!

In 2000, Mel Gibson starred in a movie called ‘What Women Want’. In this movie, he was able to read the minds of women. Wouldn’t that be nice for EVERYONE if that was actually possible? I can’t grant a man the ability to look into my mind, but sometimes I wish they would. Now I know most of you will say ‘WHY NOT JUST TELL HIM WHAT YOU’RE THINKING?’…after reading through my inner monologues, I think you will understand WHY I can’t just tell him that. I can come across as a very up front and honest person, which I am, but even I have my limits.

This post is based on a combination of my thoughts during certain of dates that I have had. It is not based on one date, but a sum of all dates, and the thoughts that go through my mind at different parts. Some of these thoughts are for good dates, and some are for bad. Unfortunately I believe that for every nine bad dates you go on, you will go on one good date. So my thoughts are geared more towards the bad dates…

You see him waving at you out front of the restaurant…

“Hmm he is a lot shorter than I thought…”
“Could I walk away and act like i’m not me?”
“No! Go and have dinner with him! Maybe he will be taller when you get closer to him.”
“Holy shit…is that him? Wow OMG…should’ve wore the shorter dress…damn. Is there a chapel nearby?”

First introduction in front of the restaurant…

“Wow he talks fast…”
“Wow he hardly said a word…”
“He definitely didn’t get any taller…”
“I wish you would just come back to my place…who needs food..?”
“Who shakes hands on the first date? Now I won’t get a chance to see what he smells like…”
“Please stop hugging me and trying to rub your junk on me…let me get a few drinks first…”
“He had a few bats in the cave…”
“Did his mom dress him for this?”
“Has he heard of an iron?”
“Why are his pants so tight? Did he accidentally borrow his younger brothers?”
“At least he tucked his shirt in…”
“I wondered why none of his pictures showed his teeth…now I know…”
“Okay…you can do this! Go and have dinner, and just order alcohol…”

At the table…

“Why didn’t he pick a booth? I hate sitting at tables…”
“What what what… WHY is he ordering for me?”
“Short or tall? PLEASE waitress I like my beer, like I like my men… TALL.”
“Hmm what should I order? Since I don’t foresee a second date I am going to enjoy a double bacon cheeseburger because I don’t care what I look like while eating this…”
“I can’t order a salad…even though I want one…because contrary to popular belief a salad is NOT a safe choice to order on a date. Lettuce can be very un-sexy.”
“PASTA! I will go with the pasta! That will pair nicely with wine…let me hurry through this beer and get a wine list!”
“I wish he would’ve ordered alcohol for himself, would’ve loosened him up a bit…”
“At least sitting down I can’t see how tall he is…”
“Would my family like him?”

While Eating…

“Why yes I would love another glass of wine! Bring me the damn bottle.”
“Hmm I should really pay for my alcohol…although if he would’ve been less annoying I wouldn’t have felt the need to drink so much…”
“I wish that being tipsy would make him more interesting and attractive…”
“I can’t believe he ordered food with MAYO in it…I HATE MAYO…”
“Great there’s mayo on his lips…gross…”
“Could you close your mouth while you chew?”
“Bro it’s not a race…CHEW…but do it with your mouth shut.”
“Where’s my wine?”
“I wonder if it’s early enough I could squeeze in another date tonight…”
“I really hope he doesn’t try to kiss me…”
“Okay…start dropping friend words…”
“Did he honestly just ask me how I think the date is going?? I don’t want to have to tell him in person that it sucked…give me a chance to hide behind my phone and send you a text later…”
“Well I will ask the waitress for two checks, that should give him enough of a hint that he won’t try to kiss me…”

Walking out to your cars…

“Oh goodness I shouldn’t have drank so much…”
“Who am I kidding, that was my only method of survival…”
“Please don’t kiss me, please don’t kiss me…”
“Why is he just standing there fumbling with his keys?”
“GO TO YOUR CAR”
“Okay…I will get in MY car and shut the door…”
“Oh no oh no… here it goes he’s going to try…”
“Hug it out and pull away fast…”
“Ewwwww he kissed my cheek!”
“Could be worse…could have been your lips…just remember to wash the mayonnaise residue off your face when you get home…”
“YAY he is walking to his car and I am SAFE! Time to go home and tell the cats!”

Later at home…

“Will he text me? I hope so!”
“Please don’t text me…please tell me you got the hint…”
“Oh crap he texted me…’Wish I could’ve kissed you'”
“Uhhh…should I just never respond?”
“NO! That is rude! Respond and tell him that you didn’t feel a connection and move on!”
“Maybe throw in a few compliments about him to soften the blow…”
“Maybe I need a glass of wine before I do this..”
“WTF he just sent me a picture of his penis??? WHY do men think that I want to see that??”
“I might need two glasses of wine..”
“I will feed the cats, pick a movie on Netflix, and then I will message him back…”
“Oh yes…thank you for letting me know that you are thinking of me, because I was beginning to wonder what the symbolism for sending a picture of your man parts is?”
“Okay here it goes…’I had a great time tonight, but I honestly did not feel a connection. Thank you for dinner, and good luck in your search.'”
“Ten bucks says he asks WHY..”
“There it is…’WHY'”
“Why do I even bother?”


I know that some people might think that I am extremely picky, and very superficial. Maybe I am? I don’t know. However, would I necessarily write a guy off because of one of the listed infractions? NO. But if you did a lot of the things that I have listed, then we aren’t a match. I would never ask a guy to change who he is, and I have received a lot of feedback from guys who think that is what I am trying to do with this blog. BE YOURSELF. I am only pointing out things that don’t change your personality and who you are. I bring up height a lot, because I think height is the number one thing that men lie about on online dating sites. I’m not saying you aren’t datable because you’re not TALL, i’m saying I don’t want to date someone who felt they needed to lie about their height.

I hope maybe you are able to learn something from getting a look into my mind and some common thoughts that go through my head on first dates with online men. As I previously mentioned, this isn’t based on one bad date, it is based on a cumulation of ALL dates (good/bad). Have you ever found yourself thinking some of the same things? Tell me about them! What are some experiences you have had? I love to hear the stories and feedback.

ALSO!!!! I am really curious on any requests for future posts. A lot of my posts are based on things that have been requested by the readers. You can comment below with a request, or you can e-mail me @ how2cupid@gmail.com with your request. I can’t cover every topic requested, but I certainly will try!

Thank you for reading & happy soul searching! xoxo

A Day in MY LIFE…somedays…

This is a representation of my daily life and may not match up exactly to fellow single twenty somethings…but for fun….here is a day in my life…

Morning…

I have 13 alarms set for a workday. They start at 4:45am and go all the way up to 7:30am. I normally wake up by the fifth alarm, but for some reason I feel the need to set the other 8 ‘just in case’. Although I can see that there are new blog updates, text messages, online dating messages, etc on my phone…I don’t read them right away. I go and take a shower first to wake up. It isn’t until I finish showering and start blow drying my hair that I finally go through my phone. I do a skim first and read over everything that is new for the day. I don’t actually respond until my first cup of coffee is fully consumed. When I am finished getting ready and have ate something for breakfast (recently it’s been chocolate pudding) I head to work. I work a normal schedule of 8-5, Monday through Friday. Nothing exciting typically happens during this time, just normal work stuff.

Early Evening…

When I get off of work at 5pm, I battle traffic to make it back to my apartment. The second I walk in to my apartment, I strip off all my work clothing and replace it with something comfy. Then I need to determine what I will spend my evening doing. Most days I will run over to the grocery store, snag a bottle of wine and a random frozen food. I don’t do ‘big shopping trips’ that I feed off of all week. As I mentioned in my post about single life and food servings, it’s hard as one person to not be wasteful with food.

When I get to the grocery store, I determine whether or not I will carry the annoying basket, push the mini cart, or brave it alone with nothing. This always reminds me of the old computer game The Oregon Trail. In the game, you would come upon a river and were given three options to cross it 1) Attempt to Ford the River (Carry All Groceries), 2) Caulk Wagon and Float it Across (Basket), and 3) Take a Ferry Across (Cart). If you choose to attempt to ford the river, you end up regretting it and losing some groceries along the way!

I get home from the grocery store and eat all the food I just purchased. By then it is around 7pm, which I have determined is an acceptable time to begin drinking wine. I pour my first glass and settle on my couch. Then this happens…

One Glass…

Start playing with phone and looking through messages and send a few friendly messages for company.

Two Glasses…

Out of the five or so people you initially started talking to during the first glass, you pick one that you will continue to talk to…

Three Glasses…

Hello ex-boyfriend/ex-fling/ex-crush my phone has decided we shall chat. And you don’t even have to respond, because by the fourth glass I will be talking to myself through our text conversation.

Morning Part Two…

Look at phone…pray your ex-boyfriend/ex-fling/ex-crush changed their number and never saw that side of you. VOW to never message them again (although that’s a lie). Try to come up with a clever reason for pouring your heart out the night before… Send message explaining self… “Wine texted you, not me.”…

Early Evening Part Two…

Receive text message from random guy who thinks he is buying you dinner. Crap…you forgot you promised him somewhere around the second glass that you would meet…Come up with clever excuse or just go on the date anyway…

Lather…Rinse…Repeat

In Conclusion…

Not every day goes like this, but it isn’t completely uncommon for me to have a day like this. What are some things you find yourself doing as a single person? Is there anything we have in common? Please share your stories! I love to read about them! Please follow me, if you’re not already, in order to get updates on when new posts are up! I’m planning something fun for tomorrow so please stay tuned! 🙂 Thank you and happy soul searching! xoxo

I’M ALIVE!!! Update and RANDOMNESS!

Good Evening! I am so incredibly sorry that I have not posted anything this week. I threw my back out and I have been unable to do much of anything since then. I finally feel better today and decided it was time to start blogging again! There isn’t really a ‘theme’ to this post, just some observations related to things that I have experienced recently.

Tinder Update…

I went on a date with a guy from Tinder, and it was a complete fail. The disappointment was nothing more than the regular okCupid annoyances. He said 5’7, he was likely 5’4, we planned to meet at 7pm, didn’t end up seeing him until 10:20pm… He was a nice guy and we did have fun hanging out. However, it was frustrating that although it was our ‘first meet/first date’ he felt it was acceptable to keep touching me and trying to kiss me. His passes went from cute to annoying in five seconds. MEN OF THE WORLD! If a girl does not look like she wants to kiss you or be touched by you, PLEASE KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF! It is exhausting having to constantly dodge someone the whole night as they try to show you that kind of affection. I don’t plan on seeing the guy again, but i’ll keep my Tinder outlook open.

Cheating…

Remember that really hott AT&T install technician that I posted about last weekend? If not here it is -> AT&T GUY STORY. Well after he left he texted my phone and we started talking. It was actually really fun and I was enjoying the conversation. However, then I decided to plug his phone number into Facebook, and it turns out this guy has a GIRLFRIEND! So I tested him and asked him: Are you single? And surprisingly he responded and told the truth, that he wasn’t single. Since then he’s still continued to text me. He said something about his current girlfriend cheated on him and he didn’t care if he did the same.

WELL….I CARE. I am not one of those girls that will sit and try to mess with TAKEN men. Why do taken guys not realize that I see right through you? If you’re willing to cheat on your current girlfriend, then why wouldn’t you cheat on me? You wouldn’t! That is how it works, men become old dog’s that can only do the same tricks.

Ex-Boyfriend Sighting…

I don’t talk about it a lot, but my last boyfriend really changed my view on the dating world. We were together for about six months, and it was an amazing time. We had no problems that I was aware of, and I really loved him. One day I noticed we weren’t friends on Facebook or Instagram…and I realized this was his cowardly way of breaking up with me. That was back in February of this year, and I am still afraid of dating and commitment because of that experience. Tonight I actually saw him for the first time since… He came to finally exchange our things. It was a very quick exchange, but it was so freeing to do it. Finally the last piece of the puzzle is put in place, and I can truly move on. Do I know why we broke up? No. But I don’t need to know anymore, I have found my own happiness.

okcupid Update…

I know you guys enjoy some funny messages I get on okcupid!!!! Here are some of my favorites from the week:

  • “Hello. I’m *****. Honestly, I stopped reading at how to message a girl. All that stuff you have on there is good. But i’m just going to be myself, like I always am lol and if you’re interested we’ll talk. And behind every answer or something I say on my profile, there’s a reason behind it. Anyway, how are you?
    • This message made me want to throw my phone out a window. I know that my list can come across as a bit much, but I don’t think I ever asked someone to be someone else. If anything, I am pleading to the men of the online dating world to PLEASE stop lying about who you are, and be yourself.
  • “Are you okay if your bf likes to cook?”
    • HMMMM let’s see…. ummm YES? What kind of question is that? Why not just tell me you like to cook? Are there girls out there that won’t date you because you cook? I don’t believe it. I live off of pb&j, I would LOVE a man who can actually cook!
  • “Wow.. great legs and nice smile. And with lips like that how can one go wrong?”
    • I appreciate compliments, but is that really the way to start building a connection online? Complimenting my legs? Try going for the mind first…
  • “Hey” “Hi” “Hello” “Good Evening” “Good Morning” “Good Afternoon”
    • I hate these messages. You don’t have to write me a book, but at least write me something that shows you put some effort into talking to me. I honestly do not look at half the profiles from the guys that approach me with this. Perhaps i’m screwing everything up by ignoring them, but personally I would prefer a little more. Your initial message is like a sales pitch, you need to make it memorable, and something that catches my eye. If I had a dime for every time I received a message like this, I could buy Robert Downey Jr and make him be my husband.

Well this isn’t my greatest post! But at least it’ll give you an idea of what I have been up to these past few days! Now that my back is better I definitely plan to start writing some more and get some more content out here! I might even do a picture blog if you guys want! 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to read! Please comment below on any of the topics:

  • What kind of experiences have you been through with the Tinder App?
  • Cheating…Have you been cheated on? Have you cheated? Tell me about it! I want to know WHY!
  • Have you recently had a run in with an exboyfriend or exgirlfriend? Tell me about it!
  • Received a funny message on a dating website? Tell me about it! I would love to hear!

Thanks again for reading and HAPPY SOUL SEARCHING! xoxo

Single Life vs. Dating Life – with PICTURES :)

Today SUCKS! I accidentally pulled a muscle in my back this morning that nearly immobilized me. I was a WRECK! I called my mom and whined to her over the phone about how much pain I was in, and then an idea popped in my head…wouldn’t it be nice if I had a boyfriend who could take care of me? I DESPERATELY need to go to the grocery store, but with my back in this much pain I really need someone to carry my groceries upstairs for me. There are many times when it would be nice to have a man around. I know a lot of women like to be proud of being a woman and not needing a man, but damn ladies sometimes wouldn’t it be nice?

I have collected a small list of benefits of having a boyfriend/husband, and some benefits of not having one. I have decided to illustrate these with pictures. My cat decided to make another appearance too! He loves blogging!!! 🙂 I hope you all enjoy!

When you get hurt or sick…

Pain SUCKS!

Pain SUCKS!

Yes being independent is wonderful! But when you are hurt or sick, sometimes it would be nice to have someone there by your side to help you and take care of you.

Opening Jars…

Jenn vs Jar

Jenn vs Jar

I will figure out a way to open any difficult to open jar (if I want the food enough), however having a man to do it would certainly speed up the process! And save my hands the aching pains..

Evenly applying tanning lotion/fake tanner/ANY lotion…

Blotchy but Independent!

Blotchy but Independent!

This applies to any kind of lotion, there are just places that are IMPOSSIBLE to reach. Especially if you’re applying any type of fake tanning lotion, it would be SUPER HELPFUL to have someone help you with those hard to reach places!

When it’s cold…

FREEZING!

FREEZING!

Winter is coming and although there are blankets and heaters to keep warm with, sometimes it is nice to share a little body heat…oh speaking of little body heat…

CAT = BOYFRIEND?

CAT = BOYFRIEND?

When You Want to Play Games/Cards…

Yay I LOVE cards!

Yay I LOVE cards!

Yep…unfortunately unless you play online, it is hard to play games with yourself…I had a guy come over once and we spent the whole night sitting on the floor playing cards and drinking wine. It was an AWESOME night! But most nights you will just have to suck it up and play solitaire…

Better Shuffle...

Better Shuffle…

When Someone Knocks on the Door…

What WAS THAT?

What WAS THAT?

UMMMMMMMMM……

I need an adult...

I need an adult…

Maintenance/Mechanical Issues…

FIRST I WAS LIKE…

I got this...

I got this…

BUT THEN I WAS LIKE…

GROSS

GROSS


Although there are plenty moments in life when having a significant other would come in handy, there are some definite perks to being alone…

THIS…

MINE

MINE

THIS…

MINE

MINE

THIS…

YAY MINE

YAY MINE

DEFINITELY THIS…

Ahhh LOVE

Ahhh LOVE

AND ABOVE ALL ELSE…THIS

MINE

MINE

I hope you all enjoyed reading! I know I have been promising a picture post recently! I had to keep it pretty tame with my back problem, but I hope you still liked it! What are some benefits to single life, or benefits to dating life that you have found? I would love to hear about it! Please comment below and let me know!

As always, THANK YOU for reading & HAPPY SOUL SEARCHING! xoxo

Hello Mr. AT&T Installation Tech…

It is a chilly Saturday morning here, and I am wearing a tank top and shorts. You might wonder WHY I am wearing a tank top and shorts if it is cold out? Well that is because today I am getting AT&T installed. Wait? What? Why do you have to wear a tank top and shorts in order to get your cable TV installed? That makes no sense?

As a single person, I take advantage of any opportunity to find a date. Yes, I parade around with my online dating techniques, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t look for Prince Charming in other places in my life. My AT&T installation tech is handsome, there is something about a tool belt and a drill that really sends shocks down to my nether regions. So as he goes in and out of my apartment, I sit here on my laptop attempting to look as attractive as possible in hopes of maybe scoring a date.

Living life through a single person’s eyes is a lot different than that of a taken person. When you are in a relationship (if it is the right one) you get tunnel vision, and you don’t even think about things like ‘I wonder if my cable tech will be hott and single’. While I was casually flirting with my tech and offering him a cup of coffee, I started to think of all the other times in my life where I have acted in a very similar way in hopes of finding a date.

Grocery Shopping…

Every time I go to the grocery store I find myself always looking…seeing if there are any attractive men perusing the aisles. You can always tell if a guy is single at a grocery store in a few ways: he is there alone, he is using the small cart (or a basket), his cart is full of junk food, his cart is full of beer, and the list goes on. Yes I am stereotyping, and this isn’t always a sure bet, but I have found 9 times out of 10 these assumptions are pretty accurate. I have even found myself going into aisles I don’t even need, just to make sure I am still in the eye sight of the potential future mate. I always get excited to go grocery shopping because you never know when you might meet the perfect man!

The Gym…

I don’t wear heels to the gym, but I also don’t go looking like crap. I won’t apply a fresh face of makeup but if I already had makeup on I won’t wash it off. I make sure to shave my legs if I am planning on wearing shorts or capris, and I make sure to use lotion as well (dry scaly looking legs are not cute). When I am at the gym, I don’t change my routine in order to remain in eyesight, but I try to not make as many dumb faces. I hate that feeling of disappointment after I have scanned the entire gym and have not found a single guy I am interested in. The only thing that is worse is when I go to leave the gym and pass by a very eligible bachelor walking in… I always think ‘well I could do another mile right? NO it would be way too obvious! He just saw you leaving! Get in your car and push your work out an hour later tomorrow and maybe you will see him then!’

School/Office/Place of Work…

Currently I work in an office building, but this applies for really any place of work or school. I remember when I first started my job. My boss took me around to all the different cubicles and offices to introduce me to people. Although I don’t necessarily condone office romances, I took special notice to every attractive man that I was introduced to and looked for wedding rings, pictures of girlfriends, etc. I wanted to smack myself when the introductions were over, because I know that if I would have had a significant other, chances are I never would have wasted my time going through that thought process.

The same applies in school, especially college. First day of classes you scan every single class for the attractive men, and note where they sat and try to get a seat by them the next class. There was one class where the guy I liked was on the opposite side of the classroom and when we would turn in a paper at the end of class I would time it so we turned ours in at the same time. He probably didn’t even notice me, but I couldn’t miss out on the opportunity.

Your Neighborhood…

I moved into a new apartment back in May and during the move in process I paid special attention to all my new neighbors. I made sure for the first couple of weeks that I was always in perfect condition every time I would leave the walls of my apartment. I actually have become friends with the two guys that live across the hall from me and they are now my go-to spider killers. I remember the first time I went to ask them to kill a spider for me. I spent a half hour touching up my apartment, picking the perfect outfit, polishing my makeup (all while monitoring a spider on the wall), and then I went and knocked on their door. It is amazing the amount of time and energy I waste trying to always be ready at a moments notice just in case Prince Charming appears.

There are a lot of things single people do in order to increase their chances of finding a perfect mate. If you don’t find that you do these things, it doesn’t mean that you won’t find a mate, personally I think I try way too hard. I just never want to run the risk of missing out on an opportunity, so I always make sure to be ready and at attention. Have you found yourself going through any of these thought processes in your daily life? Where are places that you find yourself scanning the room looking for any eligible bachelors? Please comment below and tell me about it!

ALSO for those of you that are not single, where did you meet your current mate? Did you find each other in the grocery store? I would love to hear your stories! Please comment below and share your story!

Thank you all for reading! I hit 30 followers yesterday and I was so excited! In honor of my thirty wonderful followers I will be posting a picture post very soon! Thanks again and happy soul searching! xoxo